A lot of people I know have asked me this before…
Is there a difference between love and lust? Its the same thing, right? You have to lust for someone to fall in love with them, don’t you? You can’t love someone without lusting for them first.
Not necessarily.
I believe that lust and love are at complete opposite ends of the spectrum. Totally different to each other in so many ways.
Im going to start off by stating my beliefs and views on lust.
Lust is nothing like love. When you’re lusting for someone you’re totally focused in on the other persons looks and body. You’re more interested in having sex with the other person than actually spending quality time with them. Skip the small talk, straight down to business. Lust is very non committal too. Its aloof and shady and you don’t talk about feelings or the emotional side of things so you’re not sure about where you stand. You’re not quite lovers, but you’re not really friends either.
Now, love is fantastic. I’m going to start off by saying that because it is. If you’re really in love with someone you want to spend quality time together. Its not all about sex or making love its about conversing with the person, showing them affection and not leaving straight after you’re done. When you’re in love you can talk to that person for hours and hours, time goes by so quick you don’t even realise. You want to make the other person happy too, talk about feelings and do things for them for no reason other than because you love them.
Lust is very selfish in the fact that its very one to one based. It involves you and one other person. You’re not going to be wanting to take this guy/girl home to meet your family and friends any time soon because the “relationship” or whatever it is just simply doesn’t run that deep.
Love is again, the complete opposite. You want your family to meet this person that makes you incredibly happy. We all know it gets serious when you go to meet the parents! Thats a sure sign your relationship means more to you than just a few hours at home “watching a film”. (If you don’t know what thats code for, I might have to fill you in.)
In a nutshell, lust and love are worlds apart. Lust is selfish where love is not. Love is genuine care and attention where lust is not. Lust is for personal gain and short term kicks. Love is for the long haul.
Both feelings can be just as destructive as the other though. Lust can lead to loathe and there’s a fine line between love and hate. I think when you lust for someone, it can eventually lead to love but you have to play the cards right and need to make sure that both parties are on the same page. If the other person isn’t on the same page, that leads to heartache.
You can fall out of love as quickly as you fell into it too. The person you fall in love with may not be all they seem cracked up to be. It takes a few years or months to work that one out though and by the time you’ve picked up on things you don’t like about the person you love, it only gets worse. Every single time the guy or girl you love does something you don’t like, thats when the dislike sets in and if you don’t rectify the problem, the dislike turns to hate, it gets worse and worse then you can’t stand each other and inevitably you break up.
So thats my views on the subject of love and lust.
Maybe you’ve taken something away from this, maybe you disagree or agree with everything I’ve written about, if so feel free to leave feedback below.Thanks.
Ciao,
Hannah
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